Comments on: My TIME experience http://www.withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/ Wed, 19 Nov 2008 14:00:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Kathy http://www.withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1772 Kathy Thu, 17 May 2007 13:55:07 +0000 http://withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1772 Wow! I just read the article in Time. It's amazingly true. It's great to learn that I am NOT totally alone in how I feel as the wife of a Pastor. It's alot like parenting, you go into it with no experience and feel like you can not fail. No pressure there (ha)! Wow! I just read the article in Time. It’s amazingly true. It’s great to learn that I am NOT totally alone in how I feel as the wife of a Pastor. It’s alot like parenting, you go into it with no experience and feel like you can not fail. No pressure there (ha)!

]]> By: Cara http://www.withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1771 Cara Thu, 19 Apr 2007 17:37:15 +0000 http://withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1771 Horray for you Amy! Horray for this article and someone finally standing up to say, that We Are Pastor's Wives and We Do Have Problems. I love it. I'm so glad you're back to blogging. Horray for you Amy! Horray for this article and someone finally standing up to say, that We Are Pastor’s Wives and We Do Have Problems. I love it. I’m so glad you’re back to blogging.

]]> By: Meredith http://www.withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1770 Meredith Wed, 18 Apr 2007 17:12:43 +0000 http://withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1770 I found your site via the Time article and I've gotta tell you what a breath of fresh air you are. Very real and honest...and I need to see more of that from other PWs. Honestly, I'm still processing the Time article. The page of photos was a turn-off for me. I wanna see some jeans and flip-flops instead of perfectly coiffed and well dressed "first-ladies". THAT'S what being real is all about to me and if we can't be real, what's the point? I found your site via the Time article and I’ve gotta tell you what a breath of fresh air you are. Very real and honest…and I need to see more of that from other PWs. Honestly, I’m still processing the Time article. The page of photos was a turn-off for me. I wanna see some jeans and flip-flops instead of perfectly coiffed and well dressed “first-ladies”. THAT’S what being real is all about to me and if we can’t be real, what’s the point?

]]> By: RONI http://www.withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1769 RONI Fri, 13 Apr 2007 21:18:19 +0000 http://withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1769 I am a PW of about three years now. I am a second grade teacher and a friend of mine at work gave me the Time article. Wow! What timing! I am totally not the typical PW. But I am so glad to find this website. Finally, other PWs who get it! I am a PW of about three years now. I am a second grade teacher and a friend of mine at work gave me the Time article. Wow! What timing! I am totally not the typical PW. But I am so glad to find this website. Finally, other PWs who get it!

]]> By: Lora (Rebellious Pastor's Wife) http://www.withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1768 Lora (Rebellious Pastor's Wife) Wed, 11 Apr 2007 18:52:43 +0000 http://withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1768 Lisa was very wonderful, wasn't she? It was quite an interesting experience, and from the reaction that I have gotten, it looks like it really did hit home with a lot of PW's and PK's too. (I like the "I have issues." So do I) What a great site! Lisa was very wonderful, wasn’t she? It was quite an interesting experience, and from the reaction that I have gotten, it looks like it really did hit home with a lot of PW’s and PK’s too.

(I like the “I have issues.” So do I)

What a great site!

]]> By: Charique http://www.withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1767 Charique Tue, 10 Apr 2007 03:38:01 +0000 http://withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1767 I am so glad this site exists. I too have wished my husband would pick another professsion instead of the ministry. However, I did not want to stand in the way of what God has planned for him and me for that matter. I didn't want to have to answer for that on judgement day. The expectations are the same for me in the methodist church. The music directors want me on the choir, some people feel i should wear hats (but they give me a headache!), and my husband is constantly asking me to "sacrifice" for this and that. My main concern is holding on to my identity and interests. I pray we all have success in knowing ourselves while being what God and our husbands need for us to do. I am so glad this site exists. I too have wished my husband would pick another professsion instead of the ministry. However, I did not want to stand in the way of what God has planned for him and me for that matter. I didn’t want to have to answer for that on judgement day. The expectations are the same for me in the methodist church. The music directors want me on the choir, some people feel i should wear hats (but they give me a headache!), and my husband is constantly asking me to “sacrifice” for this and that. My main concern is holding on to my identity and interests. I pray we all have success in knowing ourselves while being what God and our husbands need for us to do.

]]> By: Jill http://www.withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1766 Jill Fri, 06 Apr 2007 04:05:30 +0000 http://withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1766 Where did the title "Pastor's/Minister's wife" come from anyway? My mother-in-law is not known as "the farmer's wife." A teacher's wife is not known as "the teacher's wife." So why so much pressure to begin with on a family where it is the spouse who has the job or calling of the church? Where did the title “Pastor’s/Minister’s wife” come from anyway? My mother-in-law is not known as “the farmer’s wife.” A teacher’s wife is not known as “the teacher’s wife.” So why so much pressure to begin with on a family where it is the spouse who has the job or calling of the church?

]]> By: Jill http://www.withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1765 Jill Fri, 06 Apr 2007 04:02:04 +0000 http://withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1765 I wish I could say that I am "thrilled" to be a minister's wife but, there are times, I just am not. Maybe it is because since we moved here, we came in at a time when one of the churches was having trouble keeping its members; most left and took their membership to a much larger and newer church 15 miles north of us and several decided to spread the word to my daughter's classmates/friends that maybe their children might not want to get involved with us--all over the fact that I would not bend for another member who insisted I make my husband and the committee do something I knew I had no right to tell them to do. Then, there are both churches who have members that I just love, so when I think about that, I am fine. I think moving so far away from our families and friends and home church was what hurt the most and at a time that my husband had to chose to take a church now, or lose the associate position he had under the direction of a senior minister who was causing so much friction, along with 3 other members who did not like my husband. There are times I have prayed that perhaps he made a mistake to take the call; he has a teaching certificate or could have farmed with his Dad. In other words, take the easy way out and just stay put and not worry about ever having to move again. I love the church, I love the idea of serving but I just wish there was not so much stress and pressure behind the role of being a minister's wife. I wish I could say that I am “thrilled” to be a minister’s wife but, there are times, I just am not. Maybe it is because since we moved here, we came in at a time when one of the churches was having trouble keeping its members; most left and took their membership to a much larger and newer church 15 miles north of us and several decided to spread the word to my daughter’s classmates/friends that maybe their children might not want to get involved with us–all over the fact that I would not bend for another member who insisted I make my husband and the committee do something I knew I had no right to tell them to do. Then, there are both churches who have members that I just love, so when I think about that, I am fine. I think moving so far away from our families and friends and home church was what hurt the most and at a time that my husband had to chose to take a church now, or lose the associate position he had under the direction of a senior minister who was causing so much friction, along with 3 other members who did not like my husband. There are times I have prayed that perhaps he made a mistake to take the call; he has a teaching certificate or could have farmed with his Dad. In other words, take the easy way out and just stay put and not worry about ever having to move again. I love the church, I love the idea of serving but I just wish there was not so much stress and pressure behind the role of being a minister’s wife.

]]> By: Julie Bridges http://www.withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1764 Julie Bridges Fri, 06 Apr 2007 00:42:10 +0000 http://withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1764 I did not know such a website existed. I am so glad to have found it. I am a very non-traditional pastor's wife. I often talk about things that freaks out my women's group. I work as a Home Health Nurse also. I never have and never will sing in the choir, but I love to jam in my car. I'm a bit of a rocker. Married to a staunch Presbyterian minister. I did not know such a website existed. I am so glad to have found it. I am a very non-traditional pastor’s wife. I often talk about things that freaks out my women’s group. I work as a Home Health Nurse also. I never have and never will sing in the choir, but I love to jam in my car. I’m a bit of a rocker. Married to a staunch Presbyterian minister.

]]> By: Debbie McMahan http://www.withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1763 Debbie McMahan Thu, 05 Apr 2007 01:39:29 +0000 http://withpurpose.com/2007/03/30/my-time-experience/#comment-1763 This was the 1st time I had read any of her articles and I was absolutely amazed. I work 60 hours a wk. Keep up with a Softball & Soccer daughter, plus chase a grandaughter when my son needs a babysitter. When I married my wonderful husband this was not exactly what I thought it would be, but God had better plans. No, I cannot play the piano and I do sing some with my husband. But, my love for the lost and the community has changed my life. I LOVE Bible School. To see the children learn a little more each day and have have so much fun. 12 days at work is nothing. I will never be a typical PW,but now it seems to be the normal way of life. This article hit the way most PW need to support and keep and life of their own. This was the 1st time I had read any of her articles and I was absolutely amazed. I work 60 hours a wk. Keep up with a Softball & Soccer daughter, plus chase a grandaughter when my son needs a babysitter. When I married my wonderful husband this was not exactly what I thought it would be, but God had better plans. No, I cannot play the piano and I do sing some with my husband. But, my love for the lost and the community has changed my life. I LOVE Bible School. To see the children learn a little more each day and have have so much fun. 12 days at work is nothing. I will never be a typical PW,but now it seems to be the normal way of life.
This article hit the way most PW need to support and keep and life of their own.

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