The Root of All Marital Conflict?

May 18, 2005

The last two days have not been particularly stellar for my husband and me. It started with a small argument, which we seemed to resolve after a lengthy discussion but has since flared up several times like a fire that just won’t die. I think we’ve finally snuffed it out for good, but geez, what a process! I am positively all talked out.

When things like this happen and when we finally get to the root of it, the core problem is never a surprise. The circumstances usually vary, but the bottom line rarely does. In a nutshell, I want to feel cherished and he wants to feel believed in. If I’m not feeling cherished or he’s not feeling believed in, it usually leads to an argument somewhere.

The funny thing is, it’s a theme we encounter not only in ourselves, but most other couples as well. Interesting.

Category: Love

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2 Responses to “The Root of All Marital Conflict?”

  1. M
    July 25th, 2005 @ 12:11 pm

    I think that is very true. surfed across your blog– really enjoying it!

  2. Michele (my middle name)
    September 22nd, 2005 @ 10:38 am

    I LOVE your website. I am a Pastor’s wife too. I was reading the root of all marital conflict. How do we get our husbands to cherish us when all he cherishes is the church? I definitely believe in him and tell him and show him daily. He often thanks me for being there and believing in him, but I have never had the opportunity or privilege of thanking him for cherishing me but the people in the church have!

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